Financial problems are a dimension of divorce that catches many divorcees off guard. Aside from the emotional turmoil and mental and physical exhaustion of the divorce negotiations, you also have to anticipate its financial impact during and after the proceedings.

Many men and women are shocked when they learn that their money problems don’t go away after their ex-spouse signs the final divorce settlement papers. Sure, these documents will state how your assets and liabilities will be divided, but as with many things in life, actual implementation is often another story.

The good news is that most financial problems you’ll face during and after the divorce can be mitigated with some simple measures. If you’re in the process of a divorce or have already signed the papers, be sure to follow these 6 steps to protect your finances.

Take Care of Your Credit

If you still have any joint credit cards with your ex or soon-to-be ex, make sure you cancel these to avoid tying your credit to your ex’s spending habits. If you have yet to build a good credit score under your name, now’s the time to do it.

Plan Your Estate

If you’re still in the middle of the divorce proceedings, it’s a good idea to prepare to disinherit your ex. If the divorce has already happened, talk to an attorney about altering your will and estate planning documents in light of your new status. Should something happen to you, you may not be keen on your ex inheriting your estate.

Update Your Beneficiaries

You should also update all your insurance policies, pensions, annuities, trusts, retirement accounts, and anything else where your ex is listed as a beneficiary.

Divide Your Retirement Plan

Dividing retirement assets can be tricky, requiring the guidance of an attorney who knows how to split retirement plans while protecting you from exorbitant administrative costs and tax consequences. For division of 401(k)s and pension plans (not IRAs), you will need to execute a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO), which will ensure your plan administrators will pay benefits according to your divorce’s settlement.

Ensure Your Receive Alimony and Child Support

Although your divorce settlement states that your ex must pay child support and alimony, many former spouses do not honor these obligations. What you can do is place measures to ensure you receive maintenance and child support, whether it’s through an annuity purchase, automatic bank transfers, or transfer of specific property to your name.

Sell or Refinance the Family Home

The cleanest way to ‘get rid’ of the marital home is to sell it and split the proceeds equally between the two parties. If either spouse chooses to stay in the home, it’s critical to refinance the mortgage under the name of the person who gets to keep the property. This will ensure that whoever moves out is no longer liable for mortgage payments. Remember, just because your name isn’t in the title, doesn’t mean you’re off the hook as far as the mortgage goes.
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One of the bitter realities of going through a divorce in Texas is having to decide where to live while the divorce proceedings are ongoing and after things have wrapped up. There are no right or wrong answers here. Your decision ultimately depends on your specific circumstances, even if a certain option turned out well for a friend or family member.

Continuing to live in the family home may add to your personal debt and tax liabilities. On the other hand, moving out can mean paying more out of your pocket every month for rent or a new mortgage.

Here’s a closer look at your options and their pros and cons.

Continue Staying in the Family Home

If you have young children or currently don’t have the resources to move and find a new home, you can negotiate to continue living in the family home. Obviously, this means you can maintain a part of the quality of life you’re accustomed to, not to mention you get to stay close to your friends and family in the neighborhood through this tough time.

But this option also comes with issues. For starters, you need to prepare yourself financially for the costs of maintaining a home on your own, such as maintenance, cleaning, utilities, and taxes. If you are assuming the mortgage, you need to find out if you have the monthly cash flow and financial capability to refinance. Note that monthly mortgage payments cannot be counted towards spousal maintenance or child support.

Moving into a New Home

While many divorcees fight tooth and nail to continue living in the family home, there’s something to be said about starting life anew and moving into a new neighborhood, city, or state. And given the right real estate market, this can lead to an opportunity to build equity, serving as a launch pad towards greater wealth.

Of course, it goes without saying that buying a new home is expensive, so before making any final decisions, you want to be realistic about whether you can even afford the total cost of moving. These expenses include:

New furnishings
Home improvements
Transaction costs (e.g. down payment and settlements)
Closing costs

If your joint accounts are frozen or the divorce proceedings are taking longer than expected to resolve, moving into a new home may not be the smartest option.


Renting is perhaps the most practical option on this list, especially when it comes to figuring out where to live while the divorce negotiations are ongoing. At a time when emotions are high and your life is going through major changes, the last thing you want to do is make any decisions that may damage your finances permanently.

Finding a temporary home also lets you buy some time and space to think about what to do next after the divorce. By not committing yourself to a mortgage, you have more options to consider.
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A divorce in itself is a complicated process. But it gets even more complex when the spouses have to figure out what to do with a privately-owned business.

If you’re facing this situation, below are three important factors to consider.

The Value of the Business

It’s important to first look at the company’s financial statements, giving each side’s valuation expert equal access to the company’s books, tours of the company’s facilities, and time to interview the management. This is especially important for spouses who may not play as much of an active role in the business’s daily affairs as their partners do.

Inadequate discovery may cause an expert to miss important information, leading to an inaccurate valuation of the enterprise.

If the business interest was owned before the marriage, this may require the inclusion of the appreciation of the business’s value over the duration the marriage, which will, in turn, require an analysis of the current market conditions and comparing it with the business’ value at the start of the marriage.

What to Do in Case of Spousal Support Obligations

Under Texas law, which distinguishes community property from separate property, if one spouse started a business before the marriage, that company is his or her separated property. If it was started during the marriage, it will be community property, and thus divided equally upon divorce.

There are instances when it’s necessary to adjust the value of the business from the marital estate to avoid ‘double dipping,’ which happens when one spouse receives twice the recovery from one asset. Some courts will decide that it would be unfair for a spouse to receive spousal maintenance payments and a share of the business’s value, but this is not always the case—ultimately it depends on your state’s laws.

Honesty in Reporting Income

It’s common for a spouse who is a controlling shareholder of the business to hide assets and/or income to try and get a better deal during a divorce settlement. Hiding income and assets, or even exaggerating expenses and liabilities, can lead to a lower valuation of the business, which in turn, means lower child and spousal maintenance payments.

It’s for this reason that it’s important to work with an experienced valuation expert who knows how to find these kinds of anomalies.

In Summary

When a business is part of a marital estate, a fair settlement during divorce hinges on the company’s accurate valuation. This can be done by working with a reliable divorce attorney and experience valuation expert who knows how courts handle property division and how spouses hide their income and assets to undervalue the business.
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Two generations of record high divorce rates have nearly cemented the image of the father who was only around on weekends as part of American culture. But this is quickly changing, as more and more couples in recent years are opting to co-parent their children, even after separating from their spouses.

Seeing the benefits of co-parenting, lawmakers from more than 20 states have sponsored bills to encourage shared parenting or make it a legal presumption, even if it’s against the parents’ wishes.

Earlier this year Kentucky passed legislation that made joint physical custody and equal parenting time standard throughout the divorce proceedings.
Florida’s state legislature unanimously voted to approve a bill to presume equal time for child custody setups, but this was vetoed by the governor.
In Michigan, local lawmakers are looking at a bill that would make all custody decisions focus on equal parenting time the starting point of the divorce proceedings.

Why the Push for Co-Parenting?

The push for custody arrangement can be traced to years of lobbying by fathers’ rights groups, who argue that thousands of men around the country feel alienated from their children and are overburdened by their child-support. The movement is drawing bipartisan support from lawmakers, who are responding to this call for gender equality and, for some conservatives, increasing frustration from men who feel they are being shortchanged by current custody laws.

Women as Instinctive Caregivers

For more than a hundred years, court decisions were guided by the notion that women were instinctive caregivers. This changed in the 60s and 70s when no-fault divorce laws paved the way for a wave of divorces and more women joined the workforce.

And so, custody rulings began to shift to the gender-neutral standard of doing what’s in the “best interest of the child,” leading the way for joint custody arrangements. Still, many judges continued to use their discretion to award physical custody to mothers, which critics and fathers’ rights groups believe reflect a lingering bias.

Is Co-Parenting Actually Beneficial?

Research shows that shared parenting has a significant impact on children; kids with active fathers tend to have better self-esteem and better grades. Studies on shared parenting across 15 countries also showed benefits that cover emotional, behavioral, and even physical health.

But researchers also point out that these findings need to be investigated further, as children who display the benefits of shared parenting may have been raised in environments where the parents actually got along despite being divorced. This situation may not apply to those forced into shared custody arrangement, especially when the separation involves abuse and neglect.

As Robert Emery, author of “Two Homes, One Childhood” and a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia, points out, what’s important is not the amount of parenting time but the quality of parenting and co-parenting.
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When a Texas judge makes you liable for paying child and/or spousal support after a divorce, the terms are usually based on your situation at the time of the divorce or legal separation.

But let’s face it, life happens, which means that your ability to support your ex and child may change at any time. And before you know it, the original support stipulations of the divorce agreement or family court order are no longer sustainable for you. In other words, you can no longer continue making payments.

You may have run into employment issues, your work hours may have been reduced, you may have remarried and have another child to provide for, or your child may have developed a special need that requires you to increase your financial support.

In cases like these, Texas family law allows to modify the child or spousal support order, but only if you can prove that your current circumstances require it.

How to Make Changes to Child Support

To modify a child support order, a parent must prove a substantial change in their ability to provide financial support and/or a change in the financial needs of the child. Typical examples include:

Becoming unemployed or getting a promotion and raise
Becoming disabled and being unable to work because of said disability
The child has long-term special needs that will continue after they turn 18

In instances where the initial support order was issued more than three years ago, the custodial parent can ask for an increase in child support to keep up with current Texas child support rules. For example, if you have custody of your children and your ex-husband makes over $7,000 a month, you can seek a support increase.

Under the three-year rule, parents no longer have to prove a substantial change to modify their child support order. And if the expected change is at least $100 or an increase over 20 percent, Texas family courts will usually order the new amount right away.

How to Make Changes to Spousal Support

Likewise, decreasing or terminating spousal support requires providing a significant change in the circumstances of the supporting or receiving spouse. Such changes include a significant reduction in your income or becoming disabled, which the court will consider as valid reasons for reducing or terminating support payments.

Under Texas law, spousal support ends at the date specified by the court, provided that no modification was requested before said date. Spousal support, however, ends when the receiving former spouse remarries. Payments can stop automatically without the need for an official court order. The same rule applies if your former spouse cohabitates and enters a romantic relationship with another person, but this will require presenting evidence in court and obtaining a release order.

Note that supporting spouses are still required to continue paying back support payments until they’ve met all obligations.
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The Republican-led tax overhaul, the Tax Cuts and Jobs Act, is poised to change a number of deductions, some of which will affect the nature of divorce in the United States. For starters, one provision in the tax overhaul will remove a 75-year-old tax deduction for alimony payments. But the new rules won’t kick in until 2019, so spouses who file for divorce or sign a separation agreement have two more years to qualify for the deduction.

Several divorce experts have expressed concern that the change will throw a wrench in divorce negotiations, possibly leading to less spousal support as cash goes to taxes.

We take a quick look at the facts of this tax change.

No More Deductions After 2018

At present, spouses paying alimony can file it as a tax deduction, while spouses receiving alimony have to pay income taxes on payments. Under Congress’ new tax plan, in any divorce or separation finalized after December 31, 2018, the spouse paying spousal support can no longer deduct alimony from their taxes, while spouses receiving alimony no longer have to pay taxes on it.

According to divorce attorneys, the existing setup makes it easier to preserve more money to divide between spouses, helping them make ends meet.

Lower-Income Couples to be Affected Most

The removal of the tax deduction could make ending marriages a longer and more expensive process, which can be particularly painful for lower-income couples.

Whereas wealthy people can afford higher taxes on spousal support, for lower-income couples with limited means, $200 to $300 a month is enough to make a difference in their quality of life. It’s money that could go to food, car payments, and other bills.

Benefits of the Change, According to Supporters

According to the tax-writing House Ways and Means Committee, the alimony deduction is a “divorce subsidy,” further adding that spousal support should be considered similar to child support, which is not tax-deductible for payers nor taxable for recipients.

Repealing the alimony deduction is also estimated to increase the country’s tax coffers by $6.9 billion over the next 10 years, as per Congress’ Joint Committee on Taxation.


Critics expressed concern that without the deduction, higher-earning spouses will no longer pay as much to their ex-spouses. Some divorce lawyers believe the change is equivalent to lawmakers taking money away from people who have suffered the trauma of divorce. As for the House Ways and Means Committee’s argument that the deduction is a “divorce subsidy,” divorce lawyers pointed out that no one gets divorced for tax reasons.

According to the Census Bureau, more than 240,000 people received alimony in 2016, 98 percent of whom were women. The IRS says over 360,00 taxpayers claimed to have paid $9.6 billion in alimony in 2015, although only 178,000 people reported having received spousal support—a discrepancy that has concerned lawmakers for years.
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It’s no secret that a divorce is a difficult and painful process. It represents an end to a way of living you may have grown familiar with and attached to, taking a heavy toll on your mental and emotional well-being. But what many divorcing couples underestimate is just how damaging a divorce can be to their finances.

Aside from the cost of attorney’s fees, you also have to anticipate the impact of a divorce on your credit. Here’s a quick look at just how this happens.

You May Have to Refinance Your Home

If you want to negotiate to have the house under your name, you need have to refinance your mortgage, which in turn, will lead to a credit inquiry and taking on more debt.

You will also need to buy your ex’s share on the equity of the property. While the buyout amount is negotiable, expect to pay taxes and other fees if you want to sell the property in the future.

You Have to Split Assets and Debt

When dividing assets, you or ex may negotiate to get more alimony, property or assets. But this can come with the hidden cost of taking on more debt, hence the importance of working with a divorce attorney to determine how existing debt on conjugal assets can be divided.

You’ll Have Just One Source of Income

Many divorcing spouses get caught off guard after realizing that what was once two sources of income end up becoming just one. And so, they find themselves faced with the reality of having to adjust their lifestyles relative to their income. In fact, many divorced people confess that losing another person’s income made the greatest impact on their finances.

The best solution to this problem is to create a budget and make the necessary lifestyle changes ahead of time. Consolidate your debt and trim recurring bills—do what you can to live within your means.

You May Have Debt You Never Knew About

During the divorce proceedings, both you and your soon-to-be ex are required to disclose all your financial accounts. But as many people have learned, not everyone is honest about their assets and liabilities.

In fact, your spouse’s outstanding debt might even be under your name. The best recourse is to get a credit report, which will provide a comprehensive overview of any account with your name on it.

Liability for Mortgage Payments After the Divorce

Even if your ex buys you out of the family, you may still be liable for making mortgage payments. If your ex misses a payment, your credit score also takes a hit because the mortgage still has your name on it. Lenders only care whose names are on a joint mortgage, so unless you sell the house, refinance to remove your name, or pay off the mortgage in full, you are still liable for missed payments.
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The tumultuous process of a divorce can be painful and emotionally draining. With all the emotions and thoughts going through your mind, the last thing you’d want to worry about is dividing the marital or family home. But given that a home is probably the most expensive asset you’ll own, discussions on property division will naturally center on what happens with the house and mortgage.

The “cleanest” option?


Here are four reasons why.

It Protects Your Credit Score

Even if your soon-to-be-ex buys you out of the family home, you are still liable for the mortgage, which will come back to hurt your score should you miss a monthly mortgage payment. In the eyes of lenders, spouses—divorced or not—are liable for a joint mortgage, unless you sell the house, pay off the mortgage in full, or refinance to remove your name.

Remember, removing your name from the title does not remove your name from the mortgage, which means your credit score takes a hit when your spouse misses payments. Even if you trust your spouse and are parting on amicable terms, trusting him/her to continue making payments after you divorce is too big a gamble to take.

It’s Fair

If you decide to keep the family home, your spouse will probably want a fair share of the equity. You have a number of options when buying out your spouse. For starters, you can offset the equity with other assets like a larger share of your retirement funds or savings.

You can also forego spousal support in exchange for the family home. Be sure to consult a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst to crunch the numbers and see if this is an equitable and financially sound option. You also have the option of a cash-out refinance, which lets you tap your equity to take a new mortgage, which you can then use to buy out your spouse.

Refinancing Provides Access to Low-Cost Capital

Leveraging your equity also offers other benefits aside from buying out your spouse. It’s common for many divorcing couples to be cash poor but house rich. With interest rates now at all-time lows, taking a new mortgage gives you access to low-cost capital, which you can use to pay off bills and credit card debt, create an emergency fund, invest in assets with a higher return than your mortgage interest, or make home improvements among many others.

It Lowers Your Mortgage Payments

With interest rates at historic lows since the 2088 recession, refinancing is a good way to bring down your payments. This is especially useful after a divorce when cash flow is tight because of the higher cost of supporting two households. Talk to a mortgage professional to determine whether it’s possible to lower your payments.
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Going through a divorce can take an emotional and psychological toll on just about anyone. But what many divorcing couples often underestimate is just how expensive a divorce can be. Even worse is how the financial impact of a divorce is felt throughout an excruciatingly drawn-out process.

It’s for this reason that it is absolutely necessary to have a support system around you who can help you move forward both emotionally and financially. The people you surround yourself with will be your most important asset when taking the challenges of a divorce head on. Listed below is a list of personalities you will need to have as successful an outcome as possible.

Family And Friends

For divorces involving children and property division, it’s important to have family and friends who can provide the necessary emotional support as you go through this tumultuous period of your life. Having friends and family who can empathize with your situation and just listen to you goes a long way towards putting you on the path to healing.

It’s also a good idea to regularly see a therapist during this time to ensure you have someone who can help you make sense of your stress and emotions.

A Divorce Attorney

An experienced matrimonial lawyer—ideally one you’ve known for years—will prove invaluable during a divorce, ensuring that you’re getting the best possible representation, especially when the separation involves dividing assets and/or child custody.

If you don’t know any attorneys specializing in family law, start by asking your friends and family. You should also seek referrals from other sources, whether it’s resources like Justia or family law attorney associations. It’s a good idea to narrow your choices down to three attorneys, interviewing each one before making any commitments.

Remember that a divorce process may end up taking years, so you want to work with an attorney that you can actually get along with. You also want to hire an attorney who offers a practical fee structure, at least to your current situation.

Financial Advisor

Besides an experienced divorce attorney, you should also consider working with a financial advisor specializing in divorces and other matrimonial matters. As you go through the divorce proceedings, you will need someone who can help you plan your current and future financial decisions.

A financial advisor’s expertise will also prove invaluable when evaluating settlement proposals and even witness testimony. And after the divorce, you will need an advisor to help you deal with the financial fallout of the separation, particularly if you have been out of the workforce for years and have depended on your spouse’s income.
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Now more than ever, today’s romantics are meeting online. Online dating blew up as soon as the internet hit the mainstream—the first online dating site,, went live as early as 1995. Now, more 40 million Americans are regularly on dating apps. But how is this figure shaping trends in dating, marriage, and divorce, if at all?

Do online dating apps encourage serial dating? Do they make it easier to cheat in a relationship? And, perhaps the biggest itch in people’s curiosity: How does online dating affect marriages and, therefore, divorce?

The research is in, and it says nothing you would expect—mostly.

A paper titled, “The Strength of Absent Ties: Social Integration via Online Dating” looks into the links between falling divorce rates alongside the rise of online dating.

That’s right, divorce rates are actually falling. They have been since the 1990s, which, as you would recall, was the time that saw the advent of online dating. According to a 2016 report by Time, separations in the United States went from 17.6 divorces for every 1,000 married women in 2014, to 16.9 in 2015. It’s a small drop, but this statistical trend is showing no sign of stopping as, just last year, the divorce rate dropped further to nearly its lowest point in 40 years.

At this point, it’s easy to disregard the link between online dating and falling divorce rates as a baseless correlation. But the paper’s findings actually support the findings of other studies, which show that married couples who met online are slightly more satisfied with their marriages than those that first met offline.

There could be a number of reasons for this, one being that dating apps are connecting us with people we otherwise likely would have never encountered, maybe even considered.

The rise of online dating and social media has effectively opened up a new world of dating possibilities, overcoming barriers such as time and distance in ways never before. Online dating has widened the selection of potential mates unlike ever before. Today, relationships are no longer limited to friends, friends of friends, and so on. “The one” may have never been among our circles, and dating apps are bridging that gap.

Dating apps even have hypothetical benefits. The researchers behind the study have been making simulations of society, adding and removing certain factors and seeing what would happen to relationships as a result. The results? Online dating allowed for more interracial connections, increasing the chances of “complete racial integration,” and ultimately resulting in a more harmonious society.

Although these findings are far from conclusive, they do line up nicely with existing hypotheses of online dating being the main driver of change in the dynamics of relationships.
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