It’s never easy for anyone to admit their marriage is over. Every spouse who files for divorce or is on the receiving end of a divorce complaint goes through a great amount of stress and anxiety. You worry about your children. You worry about your finances. It’s natural to feel afraid and angry. Even in amicable divorces, you’re bound to have many questions about the divorce, custody, property division, and support parts of your case.
Rest assured, our Texas family law firm has the experience and resources to help spouses and parents move securely forward with their lives. We’re here to answer all your questions.
Here are a few guidelines for helping you cope during this stressful time.
Try to stick to a schedule. It’s natural in our nanosecond world to send emails and text messages as soon as a question or concern arises. It’s better to write things down on old-fashioned paper or a keep of list of questions in a computer document. Except for emergencies or deadlines, you should keep and expand this list for your scheduled meeting with your lawyer. This way all your information is easy to find, your lawyer only bills you for your scheduled meeting, and you have time to think between sessions with your lawyer.
Use a secure email site. You should probably consider opening a new account where only you know the login and password. You should NOT use your employer’s email because both your employer and your spouse’s lawyer may be able to access the employer’s email account.
Don’t look at your spouse’s emails. For starters, it may be illegal to access an account or use a device that you don’t own. Second, you need to understand your lawyer can obtain the information needed on your behalf through discovery and through conversations with your spouse’s lawyer. Reading your spouse’s emails, even if on a legal device, is unethical and can hurt your case.
Keep your conversations with your lawyer private. Lawyers are required by law to keep their conversations with you confidential. You also need to keep your conversations with us confidential. This is practical advice. Many spouses continue to live with their spouse during the divorce process because they can’t afford to live apart. Most spouses are still in communication with their spouse, even if they’re living apart – if there are children or other family issues. Be careful that your spouse will use your conversation with us – by immediately telling his/her lawyer what your lawyer’s strategies are. Don’t use our conversation to try to gain some emotional leverage with your spouse. Clients should speak about the divorce issues with their lawyer and let their lawyer work with the other spouse’s lawyer.
Understand how Zoom or other video conferencing sessions work. If you don’t understand the technology, get someone to help you. There are also online tutorials. Treat the Zoom session like a court session – which means dress like you would for court, make sure the background is quiet, and be prepared for the issues that will be discussed.
Be careful about what you read on the Internet. Each divorce case is unique. You and your children are unique. You lawyer knows who you are and what your needs and interest are. Your lawyer knows the legal issues for your county and your state. Your family lawyer knows what your spouse’s concerns and his/her lawyer’s strategies are. Again, if you have questions – write them down and then speak with us about these questions – at your next scheduled session with us.
Understand that your case is different from your neighbor’s divorce or your friend’s divorce. Our experienced family lawyers fight to obtain the best financial results and emotional results for our clients. We rely on current law. We understand how similar cases have been resolved. We understand your unique situation. Cases aren’t won or lost based on anecdotes. They’re won, lost, or settled based on thorough preparation and full communication with our clients.
Don’t discuss every aspect of the case with your children. Your children should understand that you’re divorcing. They should understand their parents won’t be living together. They should be able to ask questions. As a general rule, it’s best to explain to your kids that you’re working with your lawyer to resolve everything, that their health and happiness are a priority, and that when the issues are resolved they’ll be told everything they need to know. Children should be kept out of the divorce conflict as much as possible.
At Lyttle Law Firm, our family lawyers guide clients through each phase of the divorce proves. Many divorces are resolved through mediation or collaboration. These divorce resolution methods place a priority on communication, not confrontation. If your spouse is uncooperative, we’re your advocate in court. To discuss your divorce issues, call our Austin, San Marcos, and Central Texas family lawyers. We serve clients in Travis, Hays, Comal, Williamson, Bell, Caldwell, Burnett, Llano, and Guadalupe Counties. You can phone us at 512.215.5225 or complete our online form to schedule an appointment.